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19 June, 2007
A Virtual AffairA new twist on the online affair:
It started out as a friendship, as many relationships do. But gradually Sam's feelings for Kat, a beautiful, smart and confident woman, had turned romantic.The article asks: is this cheating?
Of course it is.
You might just be romancing someone online, but if the guilty pleasure and or satisfaction you get out of it is real, if you develop an attachment to the point of hiding and lying about it, and if you expend time and emotional energy on it then yes, it's cheating.
Infidelity can be both physical and emotional, and seeking satisfaction for either one from someone else at the expense of intimacy with your real life partner counts as cheating in my book.
Now, do I think it's as damaging as a real life affair? It depends on the degree of attachment and involvement. A virtual affair may indicate that someone's needs aren't being met in a relationship. If the person sees it as such and is willing to walk away and work on the problem, there may be hope. But if the online affair is a prelude to something more, then obviously it's no less devastating than an affair in real time.
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